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The Evidence is in the Eulogy: Confessions of a Serial Obituary Aficionado:



Every morning, as the day awakens, I find myself drawn to the obituaries. To many, this might seem a morbid ritual, a daily glance at the final curtain calls of lives now passed. But to me, it's a moment of reflection, of connection, and of inspiration. A well-written obituary is not just a summary of a life—it’s a celebration, a narrative that encapsulates the essence of a person in a few poignant paragraphs. It's a story rich with details, imbued with love, humor, and a sense of who that person truly was. In many ways, a good obituary is what I consider the gold standard for a mediumship reading.


A mediumship reading should be like a beautifully crafted obituary. It should capture the essence of the spirit coming through, filled with evidence so specific, so personal, that it brings a life into full, vivid focus. It’s not just about relaying facts, but about conveying the heart and soul of the person in question.


Consider the obituary of Mary Agnes Mullaney—affectionately known as “Pink”—who passed away on September 1, 2013. Her obituary isn’t a simple list of dates and events; it’s a portrait of a life lived fully, with love, humor, and generosity. If this were a mediumship reading, the details alone would leave no doubt in the minds of those present that Pink had indeed come through.


In a reading, imagine a medium saying, “She’s showing me an old pair of pantyhose, and she’s telling me to never throw them away. She used them for all sorts of things—tying gutters, hanging Christmas ornaments, and even child-proofing cabinets.” These specific and quirky details provide the type of evidence that is undeniable, much like the wonderfully eccentric instructions in Pink's obituary.


Or picture this: “She’s showing me a possum, and I see her coaxing it out of a shed with a barbecue brush. She’s telling me that if the possum didn’t leave, she’d brush it for twenty minutes and let it stay.” This image is so vivid, so uniquely Pink, that anyone who knew her would recognize her spirit instantly.


A good medium will also tap into the deeper elements of a person’s life, much like how Pink’s obituary conveys her boundless generosity and faith. The medium might say, “She’s showing me a rosary and a chicken sandwich—something about crying at the consecration and always having a sandwich to give to a friend in need.” This combination of religious devotion and practical kindness paints a picture of a woman whose faith was lived out in small, everyday acts of love.


Moreover, a truly resonant reading, like Pink's obituary, captures the broader impact a person had on their community. It’s not just about the individual moments but how these moments created ripples of kindness and connection. Pink’s life lessons—feeding the hungry, kissing every baby, making room for the homeless—are the kind of evidence that a medium might bring forward to illustrate the enduring legacy of a life well-lived.


In both a reading and an obituary, the goal is the same: to bring a person to life in the hearts and minds of those who hear the story. It’s about more than just evidence; it’s about capturing the essence of who they were. A well-done reading, much like a well-crafted obituary, leaves those who hear it with a sense of having truly known that person, of feeling their presence and their impact on the world.


So, I read the obituaries every morning not out of a fascination with death, but out of a love for the stories of life. These stories remind me of the power of a well-told narrative, whether in print or through the voice of a medium. They teach us that the essence of a person lives on in the details, in the little things they did, the ways they loved, and the lives they touched. And when done right, a mediumship reading can offer the same gift—a moment of connection that transcends the boundaries of life and death, bringing a loved one’s spirit back to us in the most meaningful way.


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B Delgado
B Delgado
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Love this, I too, read obituaries daily. I get them delivered to my inbox every morning 🤭

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